...and then there's the good guy

he listens, rubs your feet, comforts the dog, and says yes to whipped cream. what are you waiting for?

you want a man who can make you laugh when you're down and who laughs with you when you're up, a man who listens and asks questions and responds. a man who rubs your feet to put you to sleep and who goes out for cafe mochas when you have to stay up and who knows that on those working all-nighters the answer to any question involving whipped cream is yes.

you want a man who'll wash your hair, who'll cook you dinner, who'll talk to your father on the phone when you can't bear to, who'll read to you on trips, and who's happy when you read(or sing or dance)for him.

you want a man who when he finds out that there are $199 fares to kona suggest you go with your girlfriend while he stays home and takes care of your dog. you want a man who will drive that same dog around all night when he is hallucinating and howling after the vet gave him too much post surgical morphine, because you are up for promotion and have an interview with the dean at 8 a.m.

you want a man who loves many things: his work, his landscape, a sports team, his friends.

you want a man who knows that love is not a pie, that sex is not a sport, that faith(in the world, in each other)is little like a full-time job.

you want a man who knows that women have a secret, and even though he can't know what it is, he is smart enough to want to live in its light.

most important, you want a man who can continue to surprise you, for a week, a month, a year, a lifetime, which is to say a man who has a big imagination, and who is willing to use it to win your heart. -p.h.

i am working on a project that involves lots of magazines that i have been given over the past couple of weeks. while thumbing through, i sometimes take a few moments to read an article or two and this was something i found in the june 2003, issue of o, the oprah magazine.

yes, this is what i want. with a few variations, i couldn't have worded it better. it's not perfection i seek, but i find it nice that through all the experiences and people i have met i do have a general idea of what i want and i think this little article kind of sums it up...